Choosing Your Smile

Who likes smiling? Buddy the elf, of course, but is he the only one? How about you? Do you enjoy smiling and laughing? What I’ve recently realized is that in the past, I had waited for something external to me to cause me to laugh or smile.  And in doing this, I gave up the power to control my state of mind, not to mention the state of mind of those around me. Are you interested in enjoying yourself more, and being around people who are enjoying themselves more?

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It’s a Decision

The more time I spend around successful people, the more I realize that success is a planned event.  Winners are not blown about by their circumstances or their feelings.  It’s not that they don’t have feelings; they simply use their feelings to inform their thinking, and then choose to move forward positively.

It’s a matter of what’s a cause and what’s an effect.  Kids are captives to their feelings.  As we grow and mature, we need to learn to control our attitudes and our disposition. Try this–be angry while smiling.  It’s very difficult! When you make a decision to view your situation as great, to have expectation that good things will happen, you exert influence on the situation.

Give to Receive

I find, with rare exception, that approaching someone with a smile and treating them politely tends to cause them to smile at me and treat me politely.  There are some people who are so negative, that event this won’t work.  Determine who these people are by taking the action above, and then consider avoiding these people in the future.  😀 But you know, a great majority of people, when approached with a positive attitude, will respond in kind.

Waiting to Feel Like It

I have missed out on positive and enjoyable interactions many times, simply because I mixed up cause and effect.  I didn’t feel like smiling and expecting my interaction to be positive.  Because I didn’t feel like it, I didn’t do it, and I didn’t experience the benefit.  I have since found that smiling and positive expectations are a decision, and I may choose to have them or not.

The funny thing is, thise times that I don’t feel like being positive, but simply decided to smile and decided to expect good things, I often have found that my circumstances change, becoming more positive, and resulting in a more enjoyable time. As I enjoy this improved interaction, I naturally begin to smile and feel positive about the situation.

Adjusting Our Habits

How did I miss such a simple and now seemingly obvious truth? Waiting to be happy, depending on your circumstances, causes your emotions to be blown around by the winds of your circumstances.  Conversely, deciding intentionally what your outlook will be will tend to bring you more positive interactions, resulting in a more enjoyable experience and a naturally positive outlook.  Simple, right? then why do we miss it?

Likely this isn’t the first time you’ve heard that it’s good to be positive.  In fact, when you last heard or read this idea, it probably made you feel positive for a while.  But guess what? All that is is being influenced positively by positive circumstances! If that’s all you do, the positive outlook will only stay until a negative circumstance comes!

Instead, make a decision that you will choose to smile and be positive, even when your circumstances make you want to feel otherwise.  Acknowledge that you’re facing a tough situation, pick yourself up, choose to smile, and walk forward into your next successful moment. And as you do, enjoy the benefits of your thriving life!

Who Shapes Your Mood?

Someone is controlling the experiences you have, the feelings you experience, and the ways you react to your circumstances.  Where can I find this person, you ask?  You need only look in your bathroom mirror.

No Slave to Circumstances

The importance of a positive attitude in shaping one’s experience is often underestimated, but truly successful people everywhere understand and adopt the philosophy of looking positively on life.  We tend to think that our moods are largely driven by our circumstances—and it is true that some events can have a drastic impact on us in the moment—but most of the things life throws at us can be taken in stride.  These everyday ups and down that we so often allow to control us can be overcome by taking the following two actions.

Tend Your Garden Well

First, plant good things in your brain.  This is the long-term strategy to getting you in the place where a “negative” experience can’t dampen your day.  Recognize that your mind is in many ways similar to a garden.  The people you choose to associate with, the books you read, the TV shows you watch, the music you listen to, and the church you attend are all seeds that you plant in the garden of your mind.  As these messages are positive, helpful, and uplifting, you plant seeads in your mind that help you react positively to experiences you later face.  As these messages are angry, sarcastic, or demeaning, you plant seeds in your mind which will cause you to react negatively.  The latter seeds manifest in statements like, “that will never work,” we can’t ever get ahead,” and “it’s just not worth the effort.”

Start Off Right

Secondly, have a great morning.  Don’t try to have a great morning; have one!  Every day.  What is your current habit first thing when you wake up?  If it’s anything other than, “praise God for creating another great day!” change it.  If you don’t believe me that this makes a difference, you need only give it a try tomorrow.  Make a decision tonight to wake up tomorrow happy and thankful.  Then, when your alarm rings, follow through on the decision you’ve already made.  Have a good breakfast, spend 10 minutes reading Psalms, and see if the rest of your day is better than normal.  Don’t fight the smiles that come your way tomorrow, and notice how those around you react to the positive person they meet in your office.

But It’s Too Easy!

Too simple, you say?  Maybe so, but it is the practice of people who have the kind I lives that I want.  And if you want to live an abundant life, all you need do is follow their lead.  Enjoy the happy disposition on your way to the top!  🙂