Success In the Second Mile

Have you ever wanted to succeed at a high level?  To set yourself apart from others and achieve things most people don’t?  Would you like to be the one at your office that everyone else thinks of as the go-to person?  The path to becoming a high achiever is quite simple.  Easy never, but very simple.

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The Way to Live

In Matthew 5, Jesus is teaching the crowd how to live.  He cites a law of Israel, that when someone wrongs you and you lose sight in one eye, retribution was the law—the one who harmed you would lose that eye too.  Some for a tooth, or any other similar situation.  The point was, what harm comes to you from another individual, you may justly give the same harm back to them in retribution.

38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.’ 39 But I say to you, do not resist an evil person; but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. 40 If anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, let him have your coat also. 41 Whoever forces you to go one mile, go with him two. 42 Give to him who asks of you, and do not turn away from him who wants to borrow from you.

Fair is Fair

Jesus does not deny that you are justly able to take an eye for an eye.  That is the law and that is fair.  But Jesus teaches that you should forgo this right.  Instead, Jesus instructs us to respond to evil with love.  When we are wronged, instead of seeking to hurt our enemy, we are to seek after his good.

One Mile and Drop It

Now for the famous line in verse 41, go the extra mile.  If someone you didn’t like forced you to carry his stuff for him for one mile, what would you want to do at mile 1.1?  Drop it on the ground, right?  Well Jesus teaches us something profound: carry it another mile of your own accord.

Think now of the people in your life who you’re around in a typical week:  your family, your friends, your boss and coworkers.  Hopefully you don’t think of all these people as your enemies, hopefully you like them better than an enemy.  But how often do you go the extra mile for them?

What Did We Do Last Week?

When your wife asks you to help her with something, do you growl and complain, get it done quick and plop down on the couch?  Or do you go the extra mile?  When your boss gives you an assignment that you think is stupid, do you slowly trudge through it with a bad attitude?  Or do you go the extra mile? When your kids ask you to play with them, do you hurry up and get it over with so you can get to what you want to do?  Or do you dive in with enthusiasm and go the extra mile?

Set Yourself Apart

This behavior of willingly exceeding the expectations of those around you, regardless of whether you like them or find them awful people, will set you so far apart from the norm that you can’t believe it.  So few people live this way, and it is a guaranteed way to set yourself apart from and ahead of others.  People who live lives of mediocrity most likely won’t like to see you doing this because of the way it makes them look in comparison.  Don’t let them drag you down; the people who you want to surround yourself with are already extra-mile people, and it won’t take them long to notice you.  The rewards are great, the path is simple; do the hard work and we’ll see you at the top!

How We Program Ourselves

On your way into work tomorrow, what thoughts will run through your mind?  If you’re like most of us, your natural inclination will be something like, “here comes another day at the grind!  I hope I don’t see Jim today, he’s such a loudmouth!  I can’t wait till the weekend’s here!”  But do these thoughts help you? Or are they helping to create the very kind of day you dread?

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Want Control?  Take It!

Setting our expectations and our outlook for the day—or even for the next moment—is totally within our control.  Would your morning be better if you chose to speak something better to yourself while walking from your car to the office?

Let Wise Men Teach You

Zig Ziglar once said, “Positive thinking won’t let you do anything, but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.”  This is great advice from a great man!  When’s the last time you took control of your circumstances and made a decision to have a great morning?  Why let circumstances dictate our life to us? Do you really believe that telling yourself that your coworkers are rude and your work is boring does you any good? How about when you say things like, “it doesn’t matter how hard I work or what good things I do, no one notices anyway.”  Do these statements help you, or hurt you?

Attitude and Response

Simple as it sounds or silly as it sounds, you make the choice every day whether your day will be great or a dud.  Things outside your control will still happen.  Some may be pleasant, others not—but your attitude going in and your response coming out are both things you choose.  If you’re really interested in living a thriving life, right now’s a good time to start!  What kind of day will you make today?

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Good Advice

Here’s a statement you might not expect from a financial expert:   you should spend all your money!  In fact, you should spend the entire month’s income, even before the month begins.  You should spend it on purpose, by creating your cashflow plan before the first of the month.

Now, some of your money should be spent into your savings account.  Some should be spent paying down debts.  Some should be spent by investing into your retirement.  But it should all be spent.  Your income needs to exactly zero with all expenses, including savings and investments.  Why?  Because it isn’t until you lay out all income for January with all expenses in January that you  can make educated decisions about how much to allocate to the various competing uses your money can have.

You’re in Control

The beauty of using a cashflow planning tool like ThriveWealthy is that it puts you more in control of how your money is spent!  Since you are now making educated decisisons and prioritizing the things you value as most important, you are actually able to achieve more, and enjoy some of the better things in life.  Why not give this great free tool a try today?

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Choosing Your Smile

Who likes smiling? Buddy the elf, of course, but is he the only one? How about you? Do you enjoy smiling and laughing? What I’ve recently realized is that in the past, I had waited for something external to me to cause me to laugh or smile.  And in doing this, I gave up the power to control my state of mind, not to mention the state of mind of those around me. Are you interested in enjoying yourself more, and being around people who are enjoying themselves more?

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It’s a Decision

The more time I spend around successful people, the more I realize that success is a planned event.  Winners are not blown about by their circumstances or their feelings.  It’s not that they don’t have feelings; they simply use their feelings to inform their thinking, and then choose to move forward positively.

It’s a matter of what’s a cause and what’s an effect.  Kids are captives to their feelings.  As we grow and mature, we need to learn to control our attitudes and our disposition. Try this–be angry while smiling.  It’s very difficult! When you make a decision to view your situation as great, to have expectation that good things will happen, you exert influence on the situation.

Give to Receive

I find, with rare exception, that approaching someone with a smile and treating them politely tends to cause them to smile at me and treat me politely.  There are some people who are so negative, that event this won’t work.  Determine who these people are by taking the action above, and then consider avoiding these people in the future.  😀 But you know, a great majority of people, when approached with a positive attitude, will respond in kind.

Waiting to Feel Like It

I have missed out on positive and enjoyable interactions many times, simply because I mixed up cause and effect.  I didn’t feel like smiling and expecting my interaction to be positive.  Because I didn’t feel like it, I didn’t do it, and I didn’t experience the benefit.  I have since found that smiling and positive expectations are a decision, and I may choose to have them or not.

The funny thing is, thise times that I don’t feel like being positive, but simply decided to smile and decided to expect good things, I often have found that my circumstances change, becoming more positive, and resulting in a more enjoyable time. As I enjoy this improved interaction, I naturally begin to smile and feel positive about the situation.

Adjusting Our Habits

How did I miss such a simple and now seemingly obvious truth? Waiting to be happy, depending on your circumstances, causes your emotions to be blown around by the winds of your circumstances.  Conversely, deciding intentionally what your outlook will be will tend to bring you more positive interactions, resulting in a more enjoyable experience and a naturally positive outlook.  Simple, right? then why do we miss it?

Likely this isn’t the first time you’ve heard that it’s good to be positive.  In fact, when you last heard or read this idea, it probably made you feel positive for a while.  But guess what? All that is is being influenced positively by positive circumstances! If that’s all you do, the positive outlook will only stay until a negative circumstance comes!

Instead, make a decision that you will choose to smile and be positive, even when your circumstances make you want to feel otherwise.  Acknowledge that you’re facing a tough situation, pick yourself up, choose to smile, and walk forward into your next successful moment. And as you do, enjoy the benefits of your thriving life!

Success in Reaching Your Goals

Can you believe 2014 is here already?!  I hope you had a great year, and I further hope that you’re looking to make the coming year even better!  One good thing that many people do is to use the new year as a time to set goals to improve themselves—this IS a good thing, IF we take these resolutions seriously and succeed.  Unfortunately, in many cases, our lofty goals are left unfinished and our resolutions are abandoned before a full month has even passed.  How can you separate yourself from the masses and actually achieve your plans for growth in 2014?

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If you have the desire to live healthier, improve your finances, grow in your spiritual walk, or any other goal for living a more rewarding and successful life, take advantage of your desire by applying the most significant key to success in fitness or any other area of life:  adopting new habits.

Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day

Take a simple example of a short-lived new year’s goal of losing weight.  One’s natural inclination after a whole December (or whole 2013) of overeating and inactivity is to overcorrect.  We think that to even out big meals over the last several weeks, we should break our year-long fast of jogging by running 5 miles.  We take the high enthusiasm to get fit and convert it into a short burst of high activity.  But we tend to neglect a few important steps.

The Big Challenge:  Change

First, we fail to recognize that adopting a new routine involves one of the most difficult things there is:  changing one’s habits.  One big mistake at this point is that we try to accomplish this feat alone.  Accountability is absolutely essential to get into and stay with the routine of working out regularly, week after week.  Find a friend who has success in the area you’re pursuing growth in.  Decide how often and for what duration you will connect for accountability and encouragement, and specifically what goals you will pursue.

Write it Down

This leads right into the second necessary step for getting and staying fit:  setting goals and writing them down.   Make sure your goals are  specific, measurable, that they have a due date.  For example, if your goal is to get in better shape, the following goal serves as a good example.

I will improve my one-mile run time to below 7:00 minutes and lose 10 pounds by February 15.

To accomplish this, I will exercise for 20 minutes, three times per week using the ThriveFit program.  I will write down my workout results every day, and email a weekly report every Sunday evening to my fitness mentor to seek his feedback.

Instant Feedback

Notice how this is a specific plan with set dates and times and clear markers to shoot at.  The reason this is such an important step is that it gives you a standard to measure yourself against for immediate feedback should you start to falter.  Without this plan, you’ll tend to let your habits slip little by little as the days go by, until you are left back where you started, and with a vague sense of dissatisfaction with yourself.  With clear goals and a specific schedule to reach them, you’ll know immediately when you’re getting off course.  In addition to that, the goal or dream that you’ve identified will help motivate you on the days when you don’t feel like doing the work.

Let Us Help!

Remember, changing habits is hard, and our aim is to create good long-term habits for a better life.  Don’t kill yourself on the first day such that you can’t move tomorrow.  Keep your focus on identifying and executing effective and sustainable habits.

Our ThriveMart store has a wide array of great products to support you in a healthy and successful life.  Just comment on our facebook page or send us a message and we’ll help you identify the right products for you.  And as always, be sure to check back with us each week for motivation and encouragement along the way—we’re here to help you thrive!

Insisting on Balance

Guess what’s coming soon?  Christmas!!  Even though it’s the same date every year, it sure can sneak up on us!  Christmas is a wonderful time, full of joy and celebration.  We give gifts to each other in honor of God’s gift to mankind:  the baby Jesus, born in Bethlehem, that we might be reconciled to God.  It’s good to get carried away in the spirit of the season, but one area we must work hard not to get carried away in is our FINANCES.

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Say Yes to Great Gifts

Before you call me Scrooge, let me say that I do want you to have a wonderful Christmas, to make a special time for those you love, and to elevate the day through special activities and make great memories.  I just don’t want you to experience the January hangover that so many of our friends will have once the presents are all opened.

When You Are Blessed, Bless

If you are experiencing financial success this year, don’t be afraid to spend a little more money on people this year.  In particular, do you know anyone who may be struggling to make ends meet this Christmas?  Why not bless them with a big gift or a big check?  You could even give it to them anonymously for an extra bit of fun!

Borrowing Is Not For the Wise

If, on the other hand, you didn’t experience an overflow of income this year, you may be like many across our country—facing the temptation to go big on Christmas with money you’ve borrowed on a credit card.  Like many short-sighted solutions, this decision would be easy on the front end, and hard on you in the months to come.

Think of it this way:  if you can’t afford to pay cash for presents now, how will you afford the full amount, plus the interest?  Or, put another way, what choice will lead you to have the best gifts for your family for Christmas 2014?  Racking up debt now?  Debt that will deplete your resources from January through July?

Solutions Are Out There

Something funny happens when you insist your budget must balance.  Your brain goes to work.  Once you’ve made the decision that you won’t go negative in December, your eyes suddenly see opportunities all around you.  You notice that stack of DVDs that you haven’t watched lately and you decide to put them up for sale.  You see the snow fall outside and take a few hours to shovel driveways in the neighborhood.  You eat peanut butter and jelly instead of fast food on your lunch break.  All these things may seem small, but when you add them together, you’ll be amazed:  you really can make things balance.

Supernatural Gifts

Another funny thing happens when you make a commitment to keep your budget in balance, particularly when you commit to prayer for the Lord’s help.  God loves to reward those who trust in Him, who rely on Him, and who live His way.  Call on the Lord, and keep your eyes open—you will find Him when you earnestly seek Him, and He is more loving and gracious than you can possibly imagine.

Actions and attitude

Have you ever pursued success in an area of your life and found the journey to be more challenging than you expected?  Maybe you’ve been on a new diet and fitness regimen for a week and a half, but instead of weighing less and looking better, you look the same and feel hungry.  Or maybe you’re on month two of living on a budget and even though you’re following the plan, you’re still stressed out, and getting your income and expenses to balance seems impossible.  What can you do in these times when you’re doing the right things, but the results you want aren’t coming?

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The Right Plan

The first thing to check when your activities aren’t bringing the results you want is to make sure you’re taking the right action.  See the article from two weeks ago for more info on following the right person and crafting the right plan.  If you are, give yourself some encouragement and keep reading!

If you have identified an effective plan for bringing about the results you want, there are only two major components that you need to turn your goals into reality.  These components are Action and Attitude.

Action and Staying Consistent

A major reason why many people do not achieve their desired results—even though their plan is good—is simply that they stop taking the right action.  As in our fitness example, you may find a great program for losing weight and getting fit, but in most cases, you won’t notice any results, even after a week or more of hard work.  What do most people do at this point?  The figure, “well, this is so much work, and I don’t see the point.  I’ll just skip my workout today.”  After skipping one day, it then becomes easy to skip another, and another, until we find ourselves right back in the old routine of not exercising.

What was the problem here?  Was the workout not effective?  No—the plan would have worked, but it was implemented only temporarily.  What is the answer?  Find a different, better plan?  No!  Start the activity again, only this time, KEEP GOING.  When you find it difficult, keep going anyway.  When you don’t see the good results you want, keep going anyway.  When others give you a hard time and say you’re wasting your time and effort, keep going anyway.  Not only is it worth it, but the joy that comes with overcoming something challenging is something you do not want to miss!

The Right Attitude

The second essential component for success in a new endeavor is attitude.  Sometimes, even though we have a good plan and are taking the right actions toward the results we want, success may yet elude us if we are taking the right actions with the wrong attitude.  Say for example that your goal is to receive a promotion at work.  You’ve talked to leaders in your department and industry, and identified the daily activities to become more valuable in your profession.  Yet, after six months of working hard and learning new things, you don’t find yourself valued higher by your boss or associates.  What’s going on?

It could be that you have the right activity and are adopting the right habits, but you are doing them with the wrong attitude.  Here’s one good test:  how often are you smiling?  Firstly, people enjoy being around positive people.  Given two team members with the same skills, wouldn’t you prefer to work with the one with a positive outlook and a smile?  Secondly, particularly when we are pursuing a new capability or a new level of competence, success can be challenging.  If you do not have the expectation of success, the attitude that what you want will be yours soon, you may find that you won’t achieve it.

One place where this truth is particularly evident is in the weight room.  When one attempts to lift a weight that is quite heavy, a proper state of mind is essential.  If you think a weight is too heavy for you to lift, you are right.  Only when you convince your mind that you can lift the weight is success even possible.  Your body does what your mind directs it to.

Right Plan, Right Action, Right Attitude

When we pursue high levels of success, many difficulties must be overcome.  Sometimes, just having the right plan may not be enough.  Only when a proper plan is mixed with a good attitude and persistent, consistent action will we attain the results we desire.  Instead of following the typical pattern of giving up when things get hard, let’s take the opportunity to encourage and build up each other, and enjoy the process of making our way to the top!

 

Keep Your Goal Before Your Eyes

Imagine your ideal life—how would it be different than what your life is like today?  Spend a few quiet minutes thinking on this, and you’ll find the key areas where you’re ready to set a goal.  Make your goal bigger that what you think you can do, in order to stretch you and challenge you.  This exercise can be inspiring, motivating, and exciting, but soon comes the hard part of getting it done!

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Can You Keep Going?

You can achieve the big goals that are currently out of reach, and the path there is simpler and more straightforward that you think.  But one thing is required:  consistent right action.  Take a physical example:  losing weight.  In order to drop that ten pounds, all you have to do is lose half a pound a day for twenty days.  How?  Increase your energy output and reduce your calorie intake—it really is as simple as that.  But, here’s the hard part—on day three, when you’re hungry and your body is sore, will you continue with the consistent right action of eating healthy and exercise, or will you take a break and let your goals fade into memory?

The Slight Edge Principle

Setting goals is important.  But alone, the activity of setting a goal may not bring you what you want.  Once you set a goal, you must commit to it, and keep the goal in front of your eyes.  Like many principles of success, this important step is easy to do.  But easy to do is also easy not to do, and oftentimes we skip this important step, to our own peril.

How to Keep the Goal in Mind

What does it mean to keep a goal before your eyes?  Well, first it means that your goal must be written down.  Have a number and a date (for example, run a mile in seven minutes by December 15, 2013) so you have a clear idea where you are going.  Next, find a way to bring your goal to the front of your mind every day.  Some helpful ideas here include writing your goal and taping it to you bathroom mirror.  Some people ask others to help keep them on track towards their goals by checking in with them every few days, or even pursuing a similar goal at the same time.  One idea that I found strange at first was to actually speak your goals out loud every day.  What at first felt very silly became a valuable tool in training my mind to see and take action toward my goals every day.  Whatever method you want to use, the main key is to keep your mind on your goal.

Your Mind Working for You

Your mind is an amazing thing, and if you take the time to focus it on your goals, you will be astounded how it starts seeing opportunities around you every day.  Stay committed, stay steady, and start down the path toward living the thriving life that’s waiting for you!

Are You Safe?

You probably have a job.  Jobs are good, at least many of them are.  If you have a job, you get paid to come to the office or job site, spend your hours working on tasks, and at 5:00 you get to go home.  If you’re really blessed, you get to work with people you like and do tasks that are interesting and challenging.  Your job is a blessing, even if it doesn’t feel like a blessing at times, as it brings income into your household.  But for many, and perhaps for you, the one source of income creates a dangerous and precarious position.

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It Wouldn’t Happen to Me

How many people have to decide they don’t like you in order for you to lose your job?  Even worse than that, how many people have to decide that your department is overstaffed, and you are the most logical person to eliminate?  Unfortunately, in most cases, as few one may decide to give you your pink slip.

Companies who lay people off aren’t bad or evil—in fact, if they refuse to take such measures they run the risk of running the business out of business and causing all the employees to lose their jobs.  The answer to the tough reality of being an employee is not to get mad at companies.  Instead, why not protect yourself by diversifying?

Employee, Self-Employed

Working as an employee is only one of several major ways to create income.  It has the advantages of typically stable income (your paycheck is the same each week) and fringe benefits like insurance.  Disadvantages can include a cap on your income and a disconnect between productivity and compensation.  Some people create income through being self-employed.  They are still an employee, trading their time for money, but they have the added benefit of a larger income potential, as the money they earn is theirs, and the more productive they are, the more they make!  This can be a good option, but is tough to pursue without making a big change, quitting your job, and giving it a go.

Using Money to Make Money

Since our purpose is to diversify income, we’ll focus on the following two ways of creating passive income:  investments and business systems.  First, investiments.  You’re probably familiar with things like stocks, bonds, and real estate.  These assets are a great way to diversify your income, because instead of having to trade more time to get more money, as you do with a job or a self-employed opportunity, you use money to create money.  As you save and invest, your portfolio grows and grows, so that each year a larger and larger percentage of your total income is capital appreciation.  This is a great way to protect yourself from having your entire financial life being in the hands of one person.  You could still be laid off from your job, but now you lose only a percentage of your income, rather that the whole thing.

Creating a Business System

Another great way to create income is to build a business system.  You may not think you know about this concept, but if you’ve eaten at McDonalds you actually do!  The history of McDonalds, as the history of any fast food chain, began with one man’s good idea.  Ray Crock opened a hamburger stand, serving burgers and fries for 10 hours a day.  He figured out how to run the business well and made some money.  He wanted to make more, but didn’t want to stay open longer.  So, he created a business system.  He showed a friend how to open a burger stand just like his on the opposite side of town.  Then he did it again with another friend. And another, and another.  After a while, the new stands spawned more locations, and the franchise began to multiply.  Each new person who wants to own a McDonalds location is trained in the right way to run the place, and the system grows and grows.  Everyone wins here, from Ray Crock, to each business owner, down to each and every customer.

So What?

So how does this knowledge help you?  Is it only relevant if you want to open and run a McDonalds?  No—you can use this same model to diversify your income and lower your dependence on your employee income.  At TotalThriver.com, we not only help people thrive in the areas of fitness, finances, and faith, but we also show budding entrepreneurs how to start a business of their own.  Like other franchises, we have a proven system for getting a new person profitable in a business moving high-quality products that people in your network use every day.  Sound like something you’d like to check out?  Send a message to our Facebook group (ThriveMart) and get some info diversifying your income today.  Your tomorrow can be better than today; are you willing to put in the work to make the dream a reality?

The Well-Kept Secret

Those who are financially free are those who know, and have applied, something that the rest of us don’t.  In fact, not only wealthy people, but every person who has success in any area of life has learned and applied a secret principle.  Although these people are not shy about sharing their secret formula with others, the principle remains elusive for most people.  And of those who know this principle which guarantees success, a great many people refuse to employ it to affect the result they desire.

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The Action Component

It’s been said that knowledge is power.  This is almost correct:  applied knowledge is power.  The difference between knowledge and applied knowledge is this well-kept secret known by all who possess success–be it financial, physical, or in any other realm.  You must know what you want.  You must know what actions are required to obtain what you want.  But with these two pieces only you cannot succeed.  You need the third piece: consistent daily action.

Discover Your Dream

Imagine your dream life.  If you could have anything, anything at all, what would it be?  Whatever it is, let’s represent it as a large tree.  You have an axe and must chop down this large tree.  Each swing of your axe gets you a little closer to your goal.  Find a mentor who has a life closer to your dream life than you do.  Ask him what actions he took to achieve the level of success he has attained.  These actions are your axe swings.

Five a Day, Every Day

Now for the application of the secret principle:  Take these actions; every day.  Not some days, not for a short period, but every day.  Here’s what I know:  if you swing your axe five times per day, every day, every day, every day, eventually the tree will fall.  No matter how big the tree, no matter how great or terrible you are at swinging, the tree will fall.  You must know what you want, you must know the right activities, but many people who have these things right still do not succeed.  Too often, we give up to early, or fail to take daily consistent action.

Persist Until Victorious

Do not let failure beat you in this way.  Discover your dreams, find what your axe swings are.  Then commit to doing them every day without fail for the next 2, 5, 10 or how ever many years are required to get there.  Success is never comfortable or easy; it is, however, worth it!